Happy Families

Well, we are back from the (not so) frozen north.  So much has happened and I have so many things I want to share and discuss that it’s impossible to decide what to share first and how to organise it all. To paraphrase the age-old cliche – ‘Too much to do (or say) and not enough time to do (say) it’.

I have chosen the title of this post because it somes up our holdiay, which is where I will start with a bit of lighthearted musing.

As my previous post indicated we had a great holiday and had a great sense of achievement in managing to follow the maps and plan our own walks and explorations.  We had some fantastic family team work.

O is now a very keen walker.  So much so that after Our Fantastic Day he decided that the next step should be to climb Helvellyn. Several very similar conversations thoughout the week then follwed about how we should do a few more walks first and that Helvellyn is rather a lot steeper (even if you use the route that doesn’t go up either of the edges) than the walks we were doing.  Its great that he’s keen, but sometimes its hard to preserve the keeness whilst constantly having to explain the sensible option / reality.

Teamwork was the key.  O enjoyed helping to read the maps and plan the route, he did a good job of guiding daddy most of the time – there were a few hairy moments when O decided a detour was in order and either he totally abanonded daddy to plod up the mountain with his trusty long cane, or (even more scary) he took daddy with him to climb the pile of rocks or inspect the river bank!  On the whole though, we were a brilliant team with O and H showing daddy and I where the stones were to step across the drainage channels etc.

The other aspect to ‘Happy Families’ is that this is HMC’s favourite card game.  She is a total daydreamer with a vivid imagination, so contrasts between her and her brother always make this game amusing, interesting and sometimes a real minefield of controversy.  When asking H if she has a particular character she will usually answer by telling a little story about why she has or hasn’t got that particular card.  The stories go along the lines of ‘Mr Badger isn’t here because he’s gone out to catch fish with his friends and then he’s going to the pub for a drink, which means he’s not coming back’.  I find all these stories very inventive and they always make me smile, but they can really frustrate O, who just wants the straight ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer.  His ability to cope with H’s stories usually corresponds to how the game is going for him.  ie. if he is winning he is able to put up with the stories, but if he’s not then the game can be very fraught with O trying to control how everthing is done and us trying to mediate between him and his sister.

Fortunately last week things seemed to go well and we really were ‘Happy Families’.


About Violets Diary

Visually impaired Mum, with VI hubby, 2 disabled children. Disability campaigner, novice blogger and tweeter. Trying to put the world to rights and share our journey and positive stories. https://violetsdiary.wordpress.com
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